Mother

Once again life’s challenges confront me in a way where I must make a decision quickly and act on it.

See today was our last family meeting between the “Three” (Mum, Sis & Me), there were many concerns brought up during this family meeting.

 

1. My lil’ Sisters departure from the house, moving to the San Diego area to be closer with her boyfriend.

 This is a big one, see our house is divided in to a three way deal, which include the “Three” of us. Our original agreement was that if anyone was to leave, a sequence of meetings would have to take place to fully outline their “payout” and implications on the family as well.

Now that my Sis has shifted us in that direction (short notice), we had to move quickly. The ideal thing we came up with to do was to rent out the room. Luckily we have someone in mind ..@$650 a month, including bills, chores not included.

 

2. The current status of one our tenants.

Before I knew, my mum had rented one of the rooms in our house. To my surprise, and what a surprise!, she rented it out for a mere $200!!!, chores and bills included!!! The catch here was that the person living there, would only be there on the weekends. HELLO!!!…who cares?! The room is being occupied 7 days a week! I proposed a 1 1/2 month notice of a rent increase to $350, utilities included but not the chores. Still very low, I know, but we don’t want this tenant ass out either. Plus the notice is a great compensation on our part.

 

3. Mums bills are to high (causing lots of stress for her, not helping her condition)

Of the back, my sister and I agreed that paying a baby sitter for a merely 4hrs was a bad move. After quickly analyzing her scheduled time for work and mine, we noticed theirs a mere 20 minute delay from one of us being home with the kids! Suggestion was made for her to submit to her boss about her starting time to be 1/2hr later. Presto! Ill be home by then and can sit the kids for the two or three hours till their dad gets home. She saves $200 a week!

 

Sooo…here we go..lets do some math..

 Mortgage = 2250

Rent#1     -  650

Rent#2     -  350

My Rent    -  700

Kids Dad   -  500

 

My mums part = $50!!!!!!!!!

 

No more baby sitter, all her checks are basically savings for her! = LESS STRESS!!!

 

Plus she has help with chores from both tenants! She’s been asking about this for a long time. I also was elected to notify both tenants about the meeting. In other words, delivering the bad news…lol

 

3. Mums health

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This is hard, money can’t resolve this. There isn’t  a pill one can take and be cure within a week or so. This is one of life’s hardest challenges. A real test of faith I think. To see a family member heading in a course of destruction is very hard to witness, especially when its mom were talking about here.

A very long conversation about my mums health followed. My mum told us that her doctor has diagnosed her with anemia. Treatable I believe but still dangerous. She also told us about an ulcer type of pain in her stomach, which makes it hard for her to work lately, she’s also on the verge of being a diabetic person too. Her eating habits have not changed and I suspect negligence on her part.

Now, I’ve made strides to stop my alcohol consumption, and for her not trying on her part hurts very much.

Mum, has been very influential in my life ever since dad disappeared many years ago. I can not imagine life without her in it. We cried for a while talking about this with her. Telling her how we would rather see her gone from natural causes and not being defeated from something so reversible like “eating habits” and a bad “lifestyle”.  We have to trust her that she will continue to make her regular doctor visits and help her with a better diet. Its amazing what we can accomplish with just a little communication.

 

Dear Lord,

 I know I haven’t been the best child of many, and I don’t want to make it seem like I come to you in only times of need. I am a believer of your will and know you know what’s best for everyone. I only pray that you take care of my loved one’s. Each and everyone of them. Those who I hardly remember and don’t. Help those who are lost souls who plot on making others miserable so that they may indulge in your purity and greatness. Give the strength to all of us who have set goals that we need to accomplish to be one step closer to you. To be in line with your teachings. Open our minds and eyes to view things in better perspective, so that we stay away from the devil and his dirty deeds. Bless us, your children to move forward despite life’s obstacles. Help us be strong and efficient soldiers for your kingdom to serve. In Jesus name

 Amen

 

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